If you do not trust yourself, even fairly ordinary choices can start to feel much bigger than they are. You replay conversations. You ask several people what they think. You make a decision, then reopen it. You wait for a feeling of certainty that never quite arrives. It is easy to assume confidence must come first. Once you feel confident, you will make the decision, have the conversation, start the project or do the thing you have been avoiding. But confidence often works t

We spend much of our lives searching for confidence. We admire resilience in others and wonder how they developed it. We read books on self-belief, listen to motivational speakers and search for the next strategy that promises to unlock our potential. Yet, despite all of this, many people still struggle with self-doubt, avoid difficult conversations, abandon goals when motivation fades and question their own ability to cope when life becomes challenging. Perhaps we've been lo